Thursday, 31 January 2013

Dabbling in Dating

Twitter followers may have been aware off this development, but the rest of you, not so much. 

I've left the world of online dating in a flurry of activity one night. I delete from at least 3 different sites which I've used in the past. 

It felt good, if I'm honest, to leave that environment, which based everything on looks. On a photo. The 'good' ones read your profile, and that was just about it. 

I would talk for a couple of days, messages flying backwards and forwards, and then arrange the date. No point wasting time on building a relationship and not meeting each other for months. The let down of meeting someone and having such a high expectation of them, is immense. They're never going to match their email / text persona.

As a result, I've been on countless dates. 

I'm probably classed as a serial dater. 

My longest relationship was 5 months I think? And that was long distance!

So moving off these sites was me taking control. Instead of passively searching for a face among many, I walked away. 

I'm in a challenging job, with a challenging home life (meaning the renovations). I don't need to think about relationships etc. I'm happy, confident and content.

Who needs to add that extra pressure?

We put this pressure on ourselves to find someone, anyone, to fill the 'void'. 

My Mam was married at 20, had me at 24, and at 28 was back in work and making a career for herself. She thinks this should have applied to me.

It's not the same time.

I'm sick of measuring myself by other people's standards.

By my standards, I'm happy. I'm in a good place. 

I won't be trying too hard from now on.

It will probably need to fall into my lap for me to notice!

Much love my lovelies, 

K x

3 comments:

  1. Well said! Do whatever makes you happy.
    Nothing else matters in the end. ^^d
    MMxoxo

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  2. It's a shame online dating didn't work but at least you gave it a shot.
    Having said that I think we put too much pressure on people to find a partner and be a couple. And that there's something wrong with you if you're not part of a couple. Load of old tosh!

    You're happy and healthy now too. Enjoy your house, that you've worked hard on and love your life!
    Lots of Love xx

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  3. It's a shame online dating didn't work but at least you gave it a shot.
    Having said that I think we put too much pressure on people to find a partner and be a couple. And that there's something wrong with you if you're not part of a couple. Load of old tosh!

    You're happy and healthy now too. Enjoy your house, that you've worked hard on and love your life!
    Lots of Love xx

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