Wednesday 23 October 2013

Shapes and conformity

When I started this little blog of mine, I struggled with finding clothes that 'flattered' me. My focus was on well fitting, flattering clothes. I then shifted over to more fashion forward looks, and the fit idea was something I was willing to be sacrificed in order for 'fast fashion'. I am young (ish), it was my peroragitve!!

I have now moved further along my journey, and I wear what I want, how I want. My opinion is if it offends anyone, that is their problem, not mine. 

When I was emailed a few months back, offering a shape analysing service, I was bored and thought: "Why not!" 

I popped over to Marisota's shape website, and found it was more than a shape analyser, it was an insight into body perception. 

I was only one shape off with my body perception v body reality. This wasn't too ground breaking for me, but my interest was piqued. 

Shape wise, I am a clear hourglass. 

Or so I thought. 

See, hour glass. 

But, after outting in my vital statistics, I faced with a surprising fact. 

I am pear. I was shocked. I was stunned.

I had hidden behind the idea that I was an hourglass since I had started my blog. Before even. 

It has taken til now for me to put my thoughts about this change on the screen. 

Has it changed how I dress? No, not really - I wear more trousers maybe, but other than that, it hasn't had much impact. I still rock a belt. I still have my boobs out. But I actually agree. I am a pear. 

A busty pear, with some hour glass delusions, but definitely pear. 

But this is where shape 'ology' becomes a little muddy. For some people, starting their fat acceptance journey, a nice detour into a flattering world, but a world of DO wear this and DON'T wear that, and hide this, highlight that. Some people come out of the other side of this detour, and carry on with the notion of wearing what they want. But some don't, some stay entrenched in it. 

I don't want to hide any part of my fat body, not my tummy, or my arse or my chest. It is all me. It tells a story. And so does yours. 

Wear what you want to, how you want to. No one has a right to judge you for that, other than yourself.

Much love my gorgeous lovelies, 

K x


  1. And especially those lovely ladies who don't mind showing their beautiful wobbly bottoms whilst pushing a Rangerover (seriously made my day) I love bottoms! Fact!

    P.S. I thought I was hour glass, I am pear....although like you I don't really care about my body shape - just how good I feel in what I wear :)

    1. Awww, thanks my dear. I'm glad I am not completely off base with this rant / thought x

  2. Well said Kathryn. There's so much confusion about body types. I *think* I'm a pear, but knowing what I am (or not) doesn't really change anything. Sometimes I want to make it look like I have more of a waist and other times I'm not so bothered. Sometimes I want to flatter, and sometimes I don't care. As long as my clothes make me feel good, I'm happy. x

    1. Thanks beautiful.

      I get why it is a good thing, I just don't like it as a COMPLETE way of dressing. Nope.

      K x

  3. I had a go on that shape thing, and I was right about my shape but off on my size by about five people!! I hate my shape, it's the one thing about me that I really want to change, but there is no way I can do this. No matter whether I am fat or thin (er!), my shape is still a massive problem. Being an apple with a big belly means so many clothes are just not suitable, and anything tight fitting in the body will show off a massive rolly belly!
    I thought you were hourglass, and even though you have said pear, I still can't see it! Not that it makes any difference, as you have a lovely shape and all your clothes look super cute on you!

    1. Awwwww, thanks my dear!

      Flaunt that belly my dear, the only people who will be offended aren't worth knowing anyway :)

      K x

  4. I totally agree that throwing shape 'ology' out of the window is a jolly good idea indeed! I know that I'm a pear, yet there is something about that shape that seems too elicit the worst suggestions known to man, whereas an hourglass or a triangle always come off better. But actually, bollocks to it all. Its just a way of clothing manufacturers selling us the clothes they and society thing we should be wearing rather than what we want to. I threw the rulebook out a long time ago and feel so much better for it...after all, what you feel good in always looks better anyway.
    P.s you're a gorgeous pudding you looks ace in owt. Fact.

  5. I've just done the shape analyser, and apparently I am an hourglass. I've always been told that i've a pear shape, not that I pay much attention to it, i'm very much of the fashion I like it therefore I will wear it.

    I was also one size off with my body perception, but that's because I know I'm not the same shape as the one it said I was. I can guess that I'm probably closer in measurements but shape is definitely not the same, especially if it says I'm an hourglass x

    Tinkerbell and the Lost Girls

  6. I think you are absolutely stunning. Fat acceptance is where it all starts. Fat is an adjective, not a word. So we have fat but we are not fat. You have embraced your figure and I think you look gorgeous :)

    Lucie //